Pain is universal. Everybody understands it, everybody has known it in one form or another. A picture, a word, an experience, is enough to send you in sobs and stop your world for the minutes you indulge your pain.
But in your pain, don’t forget these things:
1. You’re not alone.
You have people. You have people who care for you and think about you. Don’t ever feel embarrassed to show your vulnerability because they’ll get it. There’s no reason to hole up and keep the world outside.
Also, your suffering is not just yours. Others are suffering too. You are also their person. Be there. Share the experience. There’s no reason why you can’t lean on each other for whatever comfort each of you needs.
Life is meant to be lived holding hands, leaning on shoulders, and smiling together.
2. You’re never ready.
Having your heart broken by someone leaving your life or some tragedy happening to you isn’t something you’re really ever ready for. No matter how “long overdue” it might have seemed looking back, the moment something actually happens, you don’t get to be ready for that.
And it’s okay.
It doesn’t make you stupid, weak, or naive. It just means you were holding out for the slimmest chance that things will resolve themselves. Hoping isn’t really a bad thing.
3. The world doesn’t stop because it shouldn’t have to.
The fact that life goes on should give you comfort. It’s not about people moving on because they didn’t care enough, love enough, or got hurt enough. People move on because time moves forward.
Time heals one second at a time. If you decide to stop moving, to stop living, time can’t do its job for you.
So just let it.